Okay, so someone please tell me how you do it? I have gone to bed every night this week with a filthy kitchen, okay Jon says he did clean the kitchen Wednesday night. Any way, I can't seem to get on top of things. Most of the time my house feels like a disaster swirling around me, some kind of mess tornado that I'm living in. It wouldn't be so terrible if it were just stuff but it's also the filth that is on the floor, dropped food bits, smeared grapes, etc.., etc... I think I'm having some Spring allergy issues and that's part of the reason why I'm feeling so overwhelmed with life right now. It's subltle but just enough to be irritating, the itchy nose, itchy skin, very mild headache and yes, lethargy.
Jon and I got into an argument this morning because I wanted him to figure out something for breakfast. It's now 9:35 and we are finally eating something... I guess I've only been up since 8 so it's not so bad but kids have to eat- Jon said, I have two jobs- what's your second job? We have since made up but that's still an unbelievable stupid thing to say. Second job?- being a stay at home mom is like having at least three jobs. There's my day job, my swing shift job and then the graveyard shift. And it's not as if I ever get any time off. On the weekends I'm usually trying to do all the things I haven't had the time or energy to tackle. Or it's just that I need someone else around because I don't like ignoring my children for hours. So weekends revolve around laundry, mopping floors, dusting, cleaning bathrooms, putting clothes away, cleaning out the fridge and doing meal planning, going to the grocery store.
Perhaps I'm just terrible at time management, I mean some people make it look so effortless and many of them work on top of it. Which I can't even imagine. I would be a horrible grouch.
Once again though the issue is really around how do two people, married with kids get some time for themselves? Jon works all week, at work and then comes home and helps with the kids and house until we pass out. On the weekends we are usually both trying to figure out how to get a break and we both tend to do it passive aggressively, which we know we do and we talk about it but we still do it. It usually involves some form of ignoring things: house, children and then looking at the other one, "are you going to do something?". Okay so after we fight we do make up and have decent conversations about how we are going to fix things. One thought I've had recently, as corny as this sounds is having a date night. I was thinking perhaps we could find and keep a babysitter if we just reserved them for two weekend nights a month. I think that's in the budget and we don't have to go any where fancy, just get out of the house together. But I was thinking if it were every 2nd and 4th Saturday evening- something planned out and regualar we wouldn't forget.
Okay, so off on another tangent, this all would be so much more doable if we had family in the area. It's kind of completely insane to have children without having extended family around, I realize this now- but this is our reality.
So wool soakers, my latest obsession. I have kid #2 in diapers and I'm just now realizing the wonders of wool. Wool soakers are little short pants or full length pants made out of wool (duh) that serve as clothes and diaper cover. Wool doesn't retain odor like other materials do, so you don't have to wash very often and it can hold a lot of liquid without even feeling wet. I remember a woman I knew who's grandmother was from Norway telling me how she would hang their clothes out the window every night to air out and they would wear the same clothes for days and days. This kind of grossed me out at the time but now it makes more sense, especially if you have a lot of wool. I have a wool carpet I inherited from my mother and the thing is amazing! You can drop a glass of wine on it and blot it up and it's gone, no stain. It doesn't smell, even with all kinds of stuff getting dropped on it- oh and then there was the big vomit sickness recently and carpet still smells fine. Wool, it's amazing stuff. Any way, I'm suddenly all hip into the idea of wool soakers. I started knitting a pattern for a pair but I needed a size needle I didn't have, so I went hunting around and went to four stores, none of which had the size I needed, how irritating is that? The LYS was closed when I made it over there. So I've been stuck. So frustrating. I'm off today to head down to the LYS (local yarn shop) where I'm hoping they will have some size 7, 16" circulars!
Oh yeah, and Monday I'm heading off to the Children's Justice Conference for the day. This will be the longest time I've ever been away from Margo and I'm a little nervous but mostly I'm looking forward to sitting and listening to some interesting subjects and knitting! Ahhhh, all day to myself. And Jon and I get to trade places for the day. We'll see how he does...
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